How to embrace being an Introvert

Posted on November 27, 2009

iStock_000003310465XSmallThere are lots of myths out there about what being an introvert means. Introversion simply means that an introvert recharges his/her batteries alone.

Myths about Introverts

  1. Introverts don’t like to talk
  2. Introverts are shy
  3. Introverts are rude
  4. Introverts don’t like people
  5. Introverts always want to be alone

Introverts’ Strengths

  1. Think before speaking or acting
  2. Listen more
  3. Know a lot about a few topics
  4. Are reflective and appear calm
  5. Are more detail oriented

Shyness and introversion are not the same. Introversion may appear to be shyness because introverts are more self contained.

Shyness is a social anxiety, an extreme self-consciousness when one is around people… Shy people may feel uncomfortable with one-on-one situations or in group situations. It is not an energy issue; it is a lack of confidence in social situations. It is a fear of what others think of you. It produces sweating, shaking, red face or neck, racing heart, self-criticism, and a belief that people are laughing at you.
– The Introvert Advantage, Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D

Famous Introverts
Abraham Lincoln, sixteenth president
Sir Alfred Hitchcock, film director
Michael Jordon, basketball player and celebrity
Thomas Edison, inventor
Grace Kelly, actress
Gwyneth Paltrow, actress
Laura Bush, former 1st lady
Bill Gates, software pioneer
Candice Bergen, actress
Clint Eastwood, actor/director
Charles Schulz, Peanuts cartoonist
Steve Martin, comedian/actor/writer
Harrison Ford, actor
Michele Pfeiffer, actress
Katherine Graham, late owner of the Washington Post, author

Embracing being an introvert
Being an introvert means accepting introversion unique traits. According to the Myer Briggs test I’m an INFP. Taking the test just confirmed what I already knew about myself. But it is a great starting point for personal development since it helps highlight your strengths.

Introverts get more of their stimulation internally, whereas extroverts seek outside sources – Debra L. Johnson, PhD.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. It’s just a different way of experiencing the world.

Recommended Reading:
Self-Promotion for Introverts: The Quiet Guide to Getting Ahead
The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World
Stop Pushing Me Around!: A Workplace Guide for the Timid, Shy, And Less Assertive
The Introvert’s Corner and Self Promotion for Introverts blogs from Psychology Today

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  • Nick Laborde

    Well said, introversion is commonly portrayed as being a flaw. It's only a flaw when you try to be something your not. Two of the richest people in the world are introverts, I wouldn't call that a disability.

    Thanks for spreading the word.

  • Marcia McLean

    Good article, until the word “I'm”.

  • Marcia McLean

    Good article, until the word “I'm”.

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